Homosexuality as "Inhibited Assertion"

I'm feeling good today - have a sense of purpose. I planned my day last night before I went to sleep. That made a difference for me. It gave me focus as soon as I got up this morning and ensured that I didn't let any of my day drift by. By lunchtime I felt the joy of feeling accomplished:)

I suppose this is all about being an authentic man - recognising my wants and needs, and going one step further and acting on them! That final step is the most important, but if I don't start by recognising my wants and needs, acting on them is even less likely to happen. Someone once said to me "Men Take Action". It's true - a vital characteristic of a man is the ability to take action. In many ways in today's society men have been put in a box, trapped in a corner, and have pulled back from taking action. In taking action you change the world - thinking about it won't change the world, trying to change the world won't change it, but choosing to change the world and following through will make the impact... You might think I'm just playing with words, but don't underestimate the power of words. The words we use day to day shape our experience and our world. Use different words and you will get different results. If you respond to your desires and needs with different words you are more likely to take action on them.

e.g. Often I respond to my desires and needs by saying to myself, "It doesn't matter that I need/want to..." or "It'll be ok if I don't get that." I learnt to do this as a kid, so as to cope with the pain of not getting what I wanted and needed. But this defensive language doesn't serve me as an adult. As a man I need to go after my needs and wants whole-heartedly. To help with this it will help me to respond to them with different words such as, "It truly matters that I need/want to..." or "It will be great if I get that." These words create a different state within me, and give me power to follow through. I am only now getting my head round this - I want to start now.

Some would say that homosexuality is 'inhibited assertion' i.e. the restriction of this masculine characteristic of taking action. So when a man who struggles with SSA can get over all the barriers and blocks that inhibit his action and whole-heartedly embrace and act upon his wants and needs, the SSA feelings will not be there. I believe there to be a lot of truth in this. My homosexual feelings are non-existent when I am acting on my needs and wants. So, what I need is consistency... there's still some more blocks to deal with to get that.